Desire of
relativity
The lord desired and the world came into being. Desire plays a very important part in our life. Constantly we are desiring something or the other. Desire must always have an object. Desire is always with respect to something. It is never so that we say, ‘I desire nothing’, i.e. nothing is the object of my desire. Thus it becomes most important to analyze what drives our desires.
Let’s
start with a simple example. My son plays with his cousin-brothers daily and
there are constant fights over the toys. Each one desires the same. Recently
his brothers went out of station for a month. He had all the toys at his
disposal. But he craved for none of them. Nor even did he play with them accept a few. Again they
came back and the fights began.
It
is a simple demonstration of the way how our desire works. It is very rare that
we think of what we actually desire. Our desires are most of the time instigated
by the choices of the other. We desire that particular thing because the other
desires it too. So we may be having a car which is running fine and giving good
service sufficient for us. But we desire some other car because the other is
having it. It is not so that we should nor crave for a higher goal. But that
craving must come from our decision. If I haven’t seen the other car, do I
desire for it. Was my desire because I thought that the present car is giving
me some trouble and I must look for something which has this particular quality
which I need? Most probably No.
But
such cases are very less where we know what we desire. Our desires are mostly
relative. It is mostly the result of our relation with the other. Things which
are really necessary for us are usually very less and generally available There
is no denial of the fact that all kinds of Progress in life is a must. And one
of the purpose of the life is to live comfortably and happily enjoying all the
luxuries that it has to offer. But our desires must not be the cause of our
misery.
Every
life offers opportunity to every person. If we desire according to what the
life has offered us, we shall experience a kind of harmony between the desire
and its fulfillment as well as the satisfaction derived from it. However if the
desires are driven not by necessity but by relativity they shall lead to
disharmony, commotion and ultimately misery. It is important to know what we
really desire by isolating ourselves from the surrounding which are driving our
desires and carefully arriving at the conclusion of ‘necessity’. This itself
shall help unloading lots of unwanted pressure with which we have been
knowingly and most often unknowingly burdened ourselves with.
