Desire of relativity

Desire of relativity

 
The lord desired and the world came into being. Desire plays a very important part in our life. Constantly we are desiring something or the other. Desire must always have an object. Desire is always with respect to something. It is never so that we say, ‘I desire nothing’, i.e. nothing is the object of my desire. Thus it becomes most important to analyze what drives our desires.

Let’s start with a simple example. My son plays with his cousin-brothers daily and there are constant fights over the toys. Each one desires the same. Recently his brothers went out of station for a month. He had all the toys at his disposal. But he craved for none of them. Nor even  did he play with them accept a few. Again they came back and the fights began.

It is a simple demonstration of the way how our desire works. It is very rare that we think of what we actually desire. Our desires are most of the time instigated by the choices of the other. We desire that particular thing because the other desires it too. So we may be having a car which is running fine and giving good service sufficient for us. But we desire some other car because the other is having it. It is not so that we should nor crave for a higher goal. But that craving must come from our decision. If I haven’t seen the other car, do I desire for it. Was my desire because I thought that the present car is giving me some trouble and I must look for something which has this particular quality which I need? Most probably No.

But such cases are very less where we know what we desire. Our desires are mostly relative. It is mostly the result of our relation with the other. Things which are really necessary for us are usually very less and generally available There is no denial of the fact that all kinds of Progress in life is a must. And one of the purpose of the life is to live comfortably and happily enjoying all the luxuries that it has to offer. But our desires must not be the cause of our misery.

Every life offers opportunity to every person. If we desire according to what the life has offered us, we shall experience a kind of harmony between the desire and its fulfillment as well as the satisfaction derived from it. However if the desires are driven not by necessity but by relativity they shall lead to disharmony, commotion and ultimately misery. It is important to know what we really desire by isolating ourselves from the surrounding which are driving our desires and carefully arriving at the conclusion of ‘necessity’. This itself shall help unloading lots of unwanted pressure with which we have been knowingly and most often unknowingly burdened ourselves with.